Sometimes in a marriage all you can do is agree to disagree. There are some topics that both the husband and wife may feel very strongly about and there may be no possibility of changing the other’s mind. That’s okay. That is what makes us unique.
While it’s not a novel concept I do think it is one that is overlooked far too often, agreeing to disagree. It’s almost in the nature to want to “convince” someone that we are right or that they should see our side.
I’m afraid that I spent way too many married years doing this. I just had to get him to see my viewpoint, my side of the spectrum. If he didn’t agree with me, I took it as a personal affront rather than seeing my husband’s right to have his own opinion on a matter.
Now of course this can get tricky when it involves important issues such as how to raise your children or how to spend the family’s finances. Those are items that clearly need a resolution, so I’m not talking about those types of issues. I am talking about those daily nuisances that are small but we make so much bigger.
The next time you are gearing up for a heavy argument or you are ready to take a stand on what you believe, ask yourself if this is one of those topics that you would be better off in agreeing to disagree.
Some things just aren’t worth getting upset about and quite honestly, you take away from the uniqueness of your spouse when you try to mold them into the person you want them to be.
What better way to end a fruitless argument than to be the one to say, “You know what honey? I think we are going to have to just agree to disagree on this one.” The fuse is quickly snuffed out and you can move on to bigger things.
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