Do you ever feel like you have to keep up with the fictional characters on your favorite soaps or evening shows? Do perfect couples portrayed on television and in movies make you feel as though your marriage just doesn’t fit the bill? Do the romances and love stories reenacted on the big screen make you feel like something is missing in your own life?
Most people are aware that movies are fictional, yet these movies still have an influence on our moods. Women, especially, wish their husbands were more like the romantic heroes in their favorite movies. Yet, in reality, today’s marriages are more like the Hollywood stars’ marriages, who play the heroes. Many are messed up and full of problems. Many in Hollywood marry out of infatuation, instead of love and end up in unhappy divorces. Instead of being prepared for the work, they give up and claim irreconcilable differences.
To become more like the heroes of your favorite movies or television shows, instead of those in Hollywood who give up on their relationships every year or two, it’s important to work on aspects of your marriage that need help and to be committed to staying together. This may not be an easy task, but with love, determination and persistence, you and your spouse can become your own heroes of love and romance.
Let’s take a look at some of the unrealistic aspects portrayed in movies and television:
1. Many romances and dramas only show you the way two people meet and fall in love and end the stories there. You never get to see how the relationship grows, changes and whether it will really survive.
2. Many movies portray a desperate form of love that is more a form of infatuation, than the kind of love that lasts. It’s based more on emotion, than it is on fact and a person’s character.
3. Many movies portray love at first sight and make the audience think that’s the way it should be. Very few movies delve into the hardcore fact that marriage and relationships take work and effort.
There are many other notions portrayed in Hollywood that may cause you to feel you just don’t measure up, but remember, movies portray fantasy, not fact. You hold the key to your marriage’s success, not Hollywood.