Divorce tends to take a heavy toll on your self-esteem. When someone you used to love decides they don’t want to be with you anymore, a myriad of feelings start to weigh down on you.. You feel rejected, inadequate, and alone. You wonder what is wrong with you. You may find yourself looking in the mirror and wondering, “If only I were (blank) maybe he would still be here.” While we know this thinking is not rational, we all find ourselves doing this from time to time. As women we are overly critical of ourselves. We so often fill our minds with these unattainable ideals of what we should be.
After a divorce we find ourselves fighting against these ideals. We see these young girls out there who haven’t had children, walking around in their bikini bodies and we begin to feel inadequate. With women like that out there how do we even stand a chance? This kind of thinking has to stop. There is so much more to beauty than what we see on the outside. When you look in the mirror don’t focus on all of your problem areas. Instead, try looking for something positive each time you look in the mirror.
We all have areas of our body that we are insecure about. Don’t verbalize those insecurities. Remember that you have little eyes and ears around you constantly. They are watching your every move. If they hear you saying negative things about your body they are going to start doing the same. The last thing in the world you want to hear is your 3 year old telling you that she is too fat. Teach your children while they are young the importance of focusing on your inner beauty. There is so much more to who you are than what you look like on the outside.