Members of the sandwich generation are being chewed on at both ends. They have growing kids at home to care for and aging parents as well. Women are more likely to be members of this group than men and if you’re not careful you might run yourself ragged. If you are a member of the sandwich generation here are a few tips for you.
1. Take care of yourself!
This should be your number one priority. You won’t be able to take care of anyone if you don’t first take care of yourself. Oftentimes as women, mothers, wives and caregivers we neglect our own health to care for others but again you won’t do anyone any good if you don’t take care of yourself fist.
2. Just say yes/ Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
Sometimes in our role as mother, wife, daughter, etc. we feel it’s a sign of weakness to ask for help. It’s not. If someone offers to take your child for a few hours or run errands for you, etc. don’t let your foolish pride stand in the way. Also don’t be afraid to ask for help. You’ll be amazed at how many people will help you if you just ask.
3. Just say no.
Don’t feel like you have to volunteer to serve on every committee or bake dozens of cookies for the school bake sale. Sometimes, when you are already stretched to the limits, it’s okay to bow out gracefully. Let the other party know that you simply cannot fit another thing on your too-full plate. In some cases you can still help out but in a reduced or less time consuming role. For instance, instead of baking cookies for the bake sale, stop by your local bakery and pick up a few dozen. Instead of serving on a committee that meets weekly, participate in one that meets less frequently or say that you may be available to work special events.
4. Join a support group.
Some times being able to talk with others who are going through similar situations can be very therapeutic.
5. Seek a family friendly job.
If at all possible try to find a job that allows some flexibility to meet the demands of caring for both a young child and an aging parent. Options might include working from home, some or all the time, on-site child care, a reduction in work hours and flexible work arrangements.
Remember to take things one day at a time and just do your best. With a lot of patience and a sense of humor you’ll do fine.