Sometimes, it’s difficult to tell our spouses how we’re feeling. In fact, sometimes it’s difficult to figure out what we’re feeling in order to express it. When something is bothering us or something just doesn’t feel right, it may help to write down your thoughts. You don’t necessarily have to give the note to your spouse, but it might help you organize your thoughts and choose the right words to avoid putting your spouse on the defensive.
Afterwards, destroy the note if you do not intend to give it to your spouse. You don’t want him or her to find it before you are ready to talk. It’s a good idea to get things out in the open as soon as possible, but you still don’t want to be caught off guard. Discussing tense situations is much better when done in a calm, collected, fashion and when you are prepared to answer questions that are likely to emerge.
Do you have trouble talking about sensitive issues with your husband or wife? Most people will encounter this problem at some point during their relationships. It may depend on what the issue is or the timing. Either way, it’s best to be open.
If you want to have another child and your husband or wife does not, it’s something that must be discussed. Something this important, or any other issue that involves life changing events, cannot simply be ignored. If your spouse gets upset when you raise the issue, ask why. Ask him or her to at least consider the idea and be willing to discuss it, even if that discussion takes place at a later date.
To avoid such situations leads to resentment and distance, two things that are never good for relationships. Try to find ways to approach those sensitive subjects without causing either of you to feel defensive or rejected.
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