Do you and your spouse go to bed at the same time? Do you wake up at the same time? My husband and I used to do both. We used to do nearly everything together, but many of those things have changed in time. We rarely hit the hay together and it’s even more rare for us to get up at together.
It’s not that we don’t want to do so; it has more to do with our schedules. He often gets in late and having grown used to being up until all hours, he has difficulty sleeping if he goes to bed too early. I don’t usually get to bed real early either, but I can’t usually hold out as long as he does, and in fact, I usually push myself to get to bed since I have to get up early with our girls.
Even though are schedules differ, I love waking up with him beside me. I give him a gentle kiss as I get up and try not to disturb him. He often comes in to talk to me or hold me after I climb into bed, even if he isn’t ready to go to sleep. I always know when he does come to bed, because he kisses me and puts his arm around me. I’m only half awake, but it makes me feel loved all the same.
Sometimes, couples worry that they are drifting apart when such changes occur. It doesn’t necessarily have to be that way. Even if you are unable to do as many things together as you once were, you can adjust to these changes by spending more time doing other things together or simply making sure the other person knows you’re thinking of him or her.
That little kiss at night is all I need to know that I’m on his mind when he’s up after I’ve gone to bed. His calls throughout the day and night when he’s out of town let me know that he’d rather be home with me and that he misses me as much as I miss him.
If you find that things you once did together are no longer possible and this isn’t occurring because of a relationship problem but is more about schedules, try to adjust in a way that helps both of you still feel close. Making time for your marriage is important, but these kinds of things don’t have to create distance between the two of you. Just try to make the most of the things you can still do together.
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