When first becoming single, you probably want to cringe when you even think about dating. Now, we both know that dating is likely a part of your future, which is good and healthy but you want to be careful, choosing the right type of men to date. Although I have had my own experiences with dating as a single mom, I wanted to do some research to see what other single moms say. The following are a few pieces of advice, which are pretty interesting.
-Availability – One single mom stated that she found she was making herself unavailable for dating, primarily due to fear. Instead of getting out and making a new life for herself, she was spending all of her time with the kids, cleaning house, and working. Although you certainly want to be wise, try hard not to isolate yourself, thus making it appear as if you were unavailable or even disinterested.
-Timing – As stated, while you want to get out, remember you have no time limit on when. Obviously, you want to make sure you are ready to date, which means allowing yourself time to go through the various phases of being single such as anger and hurt. You will know when the time is right to step out, specifically for dating.
-Online Communities – Use online dating services, which are great for making friends and for meeting potential partners. The great thing about online dating websites is that you have more control than you would meeting someone in a bar. Be careful about sharing too much information and take it slow but enjoy the prospects found with online communities.
-Introductions – When you begin dating one particular man, I recommend, along with other women, that you not make family introductions too early. Keep in mind that your children are going through changes so bringing a new man into the picture too soon could be damaging. Instead, get to know the man yourself, taking months before introductions with the kids are made.
-Guilt – Most important, stop feeling guilty about wanting and needing personal time, whether spending it with girlfriends or dating. As a single mom, you need down time away from the kids. While you certainly want to balance this time out, make sure you allow yourself fun time without the children.
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