Changing your name after marriage can be a time consuming process if you have a lot of cards or legal documents. However, it can also be just as simple of a process. You should not feel guilty if you decide to change your name. You should also not make your children feel like they should keep their maiden name. With the proper paperwork, most states allow you to easily change your name even if you have not gotten married.
In most situations, changing your name requires a legal document such as a certified copy of your marriage license or divorce papers. The paper should usually state both your old name and the new name.
Some states also accept the common law rule to change your name. Using this method you will likely need a court order to change your name.
In most cases you should change your driver’s license first. This can be done by taking the certified copy of your marriage license to the local department of motor vehicles. At this time you may be asked how you what your name changed. There are options.
Next you should change the name on your social security card. You will once again need to take a copy of your certified marriage license. You will not receive your new card immediately. It will be mailed to you later. You will only complete the paper work at the local social security office.
You will also need to contact any card companies that you own cards with. Department stores and credit companies often want the name on your card to match the name on your driver’s license. You will also want to change the name with your bank and on your checks.
Your name on your birth certificate does not change when you are married.