Marriages and any other serious relationships involve a lot of adjustment and give and take. Moving in together can be one area that some couples struggle with. It can sometimes be difficult for one partner to give in to the other’s personal items or needs of space.
If the two people have not lived out on their own, the transition is likely not as bad. Neither of them are used to having their personal space and the run of the house. They have also not accumulated as many personal items that will need to be moved.
However things can be different if the two persons are accustomed to living by themselves. If both partners have a place of their own, there may be many personal items that need to be moved. Each person has likely accumulated furniture, kitchen items, and everyday basic needs. They also have developed a style in which they prefer things to be arranged and how they prefer to live.
Things can really be difficult if one partner is moving into another’s home. It can be really tempting for the female to want to come in and completely re-do her mate’s home. While this too will be her living space, she must be considerate of his things.
The couple should make decorating decisions together. Your partner should also be notified before you begin tossing out or doing away with his or her things. While females may not be so proud of a deer head hanging on a wall or males may not understand the importance of matching and coordinating items, it is crucial to keep in mind that the home is to be shared by two people and that both persons should feel comfortable with the living arrangement.
If you cannot find common grounds by moving into one or the other’s home, it may be best to start over in a new home that is yours and not his or hers.
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