I often wonder whether some married couples talk to each other at all. The number of times I have heard one half of a couple talking about something they’re planning or hoping to do or have done, and then find their marriage partner knows nothing about it. It’s like they exist in two different worlds and the two never meet.
‘Don’t they ever talk to each other?’ I say, as I think of the hours my husband and I spend talking about all sorts of things. And yes, many of them are probably the same things we talked about when we were dating. Oh, did I tell you after all these years of marriage, we still date? But more about that in another blog, for another time!
No, it’s not always about family, who are all grown up and moved out of home years ago. We talk about music books, hobbies, faith and spiritual matters, films, footy, what the Bible says, what we’ve been thinking, as well as laughing at the antics of our pup that is so much like a child in her playful ways. And sometimes it’s just zany conversations that would not make sense to anyone else. Think Gilmore Girls and the playful banter that goes on between Lorelei and Rory and you’ll have an idea what I mean. Of course we’ve many years of talking to each other and I can’t imagine how many billions of words have passed like water since then.
Yesterday we were talking while we washed and wiped up. No we don’t have a dishwasher and it doesn’t look like we will buy one. There’s something cozy about chatting over the washing up.
I mentioned some positives responses recently to my blogs here at families.com.
‘Sound like you’re in the right place,’ he said.
‘Even if I’m not exactly writing the great Australian novel,’ I grumbled.
‘No,’ he agreed, ‘but you might be doing more good with what you’re writing.’
That’s not to say he sees fiction as a pursuit unworthy of time. He is, as am I, a big reader of fiction. Rather his comments reassured me that at this moment I am doing what God wants and people are responding to that. My dear husband’s words of encouragement certainly brightened my day.
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