Yesterday we looked at how important it is to build up and encourage our marriage partner. It is also important we have a realistic view of ourselves.
Yes, Romans 12:3 says each of us should not‘think more highly of himself than he ought to think.’ Of course this verse applies to women as well. Every woman should not think more highly of herself than she ought to think ‘but to think so as to have sound judgment.’
That also means not doing the opposite and putting ourselves down and feeling inadequate or inferior. We all have a habit of comparing ourselves with others, and I admit there are times in my estimation I come off second best. So I’m talking to myself as much as anyone when I say we each need to beware of putting ourselves down.
In a recent writing newsletter I receive, it suggested how important it was for writers to make a list of ‘5 successes for the day.’ The newsletter went on to suggest it doesn’t matter how big or small these successes or achievements were. The exercise was designed to help each writer start to acknowledge the things he or she did well.
Growing up it took a long time to realize that I should not worry about the things I couldn’t do but concentrate on the things I could. Yes, I still slip back into those old habits at times and can be quick to put myself down for not accomplishing what I might hope, or not being able to do certain things – which include any form of craft.
Too many of us are ready to put ourselves down for the things we can’t do or do not do well. Yet, we often fail to give ourselves credit for the things we do well.
So why not stop now. and list your 5 successes for today or 5 things you do well.
Mine include
1. Writing– maybe I haven’t written the great Australian novel (yet) but I have had success with poems, stories, bible studies, articles and children’s books.
2. Reading the bible- many times I’ve been told how well I read it in church. As it’s something I enjoy doing, it’s not a chore.
3. Singing- again it is something I enjoy doing so to lead the congregation in song comes easily- though not without God’s enabling and help.
4. Playing tennis- brings out my competitive nature. My backhand is my strongest shot.
5. Empathizing with others. I find it easy to put myself in someone else’s place. Too easy at times. If anyone starts to cry, I usually help them. Yes I cry in sad movies or books too.
Recognizing our strengths and abilities will help us have a better, more balanced view of ourselves in keeping with Romans 12:3. And also help us appreciate the different qualities and gifts others have, Romans 12:4-8
Bible verses from The New American Standard Version
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