Previously I wrote and article about how your feelings can influence your fights with your mate. I have also discussed in the past how we must learn to be ourselves in our relationship and also accept our mate for who he or she is. At times we must learn to look over our mate’s little quirks and realize that if we cannot accept and love each other for who we are then things will likely never work.
In the comment section of the first article that I described, a reader questioned me about accepting verbally abusive, critical, controlling, and temperamental husbands for who they are.
The answer to this question is yes and no. If your spouse can learn to control his words and actions by seeking help then there are some things that you can do on your part by accepting his faults.
For example, it can be easier on you if you try to accept that the criticism he has given you came from his personality downfall and that it is not personal toward you. You can also come to terms with the idea that he gets upset quicker and more easily than most others.
However these things should only be accepted if your spouse is trying to control his actions and words and is seeking help.
You should not accept things that put you down, degrade you, or physically harm you. You should not accept a spouse that wants to make you feel bad about yourself or that does not want to try to get help to make the relationship better.
You should not accept a husband that that has more interest in controlling you than loving you.
You should accept a spouse that recognizes that there is a problem and truly wants to make things better. However, an attempt and heartfelt action on his part must follow.
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