Yesterday I wrote about how understanding your personal love myth might help you understand your relationship. Especially if you’re having problems of the nature where your heart feels like it craves more, though you have no idea what it needs. Or is somehow unfilled, though you can’t really explain why.
Maybe it’s because your personal love myth’s been offended.
Identifying the Problem
Have you ever found yourself in the predicament where nothing seems right in your relationship? This little thing irritates you. That little thing gripes you. But you don’t know exactly why. All you know is it doesn’t take much for your husband or wife to get on your nerves. It seems nothing they do is right.
When did it start? Do you remember? Are you annoyed by something your mate’s doing? (Or not doing?) Or is it something you’re expecting him or her to be doing based on your personal love myth?
I’ll use the love at first sight example from yesterday’s blog. Let’s say the married woman in the example, having been married 25 years, is pretty wise. It only takes her a couple of days to realize it’s not the way her husband is leaving his dishes by the sink, is breathing, or walking that’s annoying her. It’s his love at first sight comment.
“Honey, you know that comment you made about love at first sight being silly?”
“What comment?”
She patiently explains, then tells him why that bothered her.
Repairing the Problem
That’s all she can do. Tell her husband what’s been bugging her and why.
And that’s all you can do if you find your personal love myth has been offended and is the cause of any discord in your relationship: Talk it out. Get to the root of the matter. And, hopefully, your spouse will be empathetic and understanding in their response.
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