A few weeks back Woman’s World had an article about an over forty woman who thought her hopes of ever getting married were about washed up. I wished I had saved the article because I don’t exactly remember the whole story about how she finally found love, but it had to do with changing her thinking and using the law of attraction.
Love Charms and the Law of Attraction
I want to say a friend had bought something like a cake topper and held on to it with the unshakeable faith that it would help guide her true love to her. Day in and day out she visualized that cake topper on top of her wedding cake.
It worked. She ended up getting married, and, not needing her charm anymore, passed it to the lady featured in the article. (Or she told her what she’d done and the lady picked her own topper. I don’t exactly remember.)
I do remember that at first she was skeptical. But then she started to believe love would find her too. And it did. She ended up getting married also.
Then I think she passed it on to someone else. It worked for them too. Next, she created a business selling these charms to bring love into other people’s lives and to spread the word about the power of the law of attraction
In Sex and the City: The Movie, Jennifer Hudson’s character did something similar. She had the word “love” attached to her keychain, and she held with unflappable faith that by believing she was deserving of love and open to receiving it, she would draw it to her. She did. (Then she passed it on to Carrie. It worked for her too.)
Being Open to Love
When I watched the single point of view on Today’s “Why I Got Married, Why I Stayed Single” series last week, and then watched the Sex and the City movie over the weekend, I was reminded of the woman from the Woman’s World article.
One woman who was interviewed for the Today segment commented about how it felt “very freeing not to have to complete the sentence ‘When I get married dot-dot-dot’.” She wasn’t putting her life on hold until it could suddenly be fulfilled by Mr. Right. Also, she didn’t want to “take a moment of my life and wish for something that isn’t there.”
She meant a relationship, a marriage, but I believe it’s the not wishing for it that’s kept it from her.
Then Amy Cohen, the author of The Late Bloomer’s Revolution, said she sometimes wished she’d had a starter marriage and had divorced just to get that out of the way. That way she could say she was a divorcee instead of just a single person.
Yikes. Again, making comments like that, it’s no wonder she’s stayed single. She’s never made room for another in her mind. Never thought of herself as half of a whole, just as the whole.
That was the overall impression I got from all of the single women interviewed. They never saw themselves as married, so it never happened. They never attracted that to themselves.
Yet, many of them wanted to believe there might be a “one” out there for them. They just hadn’t been able to find him.
Kind of makes it hard for your soul mate to find you when your signal’s turned off. You have to be open to invoking the “ask, believe, receive” mantra in order to attract your heart’s desire.
I think that’s another reason some people are single. They haven’t grasped this concept yet.
Courtney Mroch writes about animals great and small in Pets and the harmony and strife that encompasses married life in Marriage. For a full listing of her articles click here.