How important are the little things in marriage? They are very important. It is often the little things which when ignored can become monumental problems in marriage.
The other day we were listening to 60s song on the local community radio station. And Mick made the comment it’s often the little things that end up over time being the straw that breaks the camel ‘back. The little things about that their spouse does that start to drive a husband or wife crazy.
So of course, I asked whether there were things I do that annoy him. The two he mentioned were: talking when he’s trying to listen to the news bulletin and turning off songs on the radio when I don’t like them. Often they are the ones he likes.
They’re two things he’d talked about before so I was already trying to work on NOT doing any more. I don’t always succeed but I am getting better. Strangely enough, when we were talking recently with friends about this topic, the guy mentioned those same two niggling irritations in their marriage.
The things I’d previously mentioned to Mick that annoyed me were: leaving the lid of the kitchen tidy open and throwing my tea bag out before I’ve gone back for my second cup of tea. I have my tea so weak a new teabag for each cup would be an absolute waste.
At this stage these aren’t major hassles but just minor irritations. But why wait till something does become major hassle? Surely it’s better to clear the air and talk about them and then try and do something about whatever is causing the problem? It is more use to talk it over with your spouse than complain to others about it.
It made me think again of Mary Ann’s article where people refused to deal with problem that existed in marriage but let them go and build up and get worse before they finally took some action. We don’t ever want that to happen in our marriage.
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