In a happy and successful marriage this is what seems to happen naturally – that they take care of each other. Each person is looking out for their spouse’s best interests and doing what they can to please them and keep them happy. In a happy and successful marriage your spouse and their happiness is your main priority.
Unfortunately that is not what we see in many marriages today. Too often it is all about ‘me and what I want.’ Sometimes that can be by ignoring how your actions will action your spouse. ‘If it feels good for me, then why shouldn’t I do it?’ seems to be a common attitude.
People with this attitude never stop to consider anyone else’s feeling or how their actions will affect their spouse and their family. Given that attitude is it any wonder marriages are breaking up at an alarming rate or that people are less hesitant to commit to marriage to begin with?
In a novel I was reading recently when the character Sophie was divorced she is thinking about her ex and their marriage.’ When they were married they were so busy taking care of business, they forgot to take care of each other and had let the marriage die a slow death.’
That’s all it takes – for each partner in the marriage to stop taking care of the other person.
It could mean working long hours so that they are never home and so their partner feels neglected. It could mean giving in to temptation with some other person outside the marriage. It could mean simply stopping doing the little things you know make them happy.
If you want your marriage to be a story with a happy ending, then you will need to work at making it happen. So if you’ve got out of the habit of pleasing your spouse, this week why not get make it a habit to take care of your spouse?
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