This wasn’t what I was planning to write. But after reading this article about Brogan Mackay I couldn’t help it. If you read through, you find this girl has Gucci handbags and designer clothes and expensive TV and computers etc but what about all that she doesn’t have?
Yes, this 11 year old has all the things that money can buy, what I would question is whether she has any of the things that matter. Sadly, she appears to have parents who equate love only with buying things.
Now, our children never had the material advantages this girl has, but at least I know they had an example of parents who loved each other and who demonstrated that love every day in their marriage by their actions. They had parents who showed by example that being married was a good thing, showing what marriage was all about and modeling a marriage that would be an example to their children when they married.
Can you imagine what this girl when she grows up, will be like? She is used to being the center of attention and getting whatever she wants, can you expect her ever to put herself out for anyone else and to think of their needs in a marriage relationship?
By contrast, our now adult and married offspring had parents who didn’t buy them everything they wanted. And that’s okay. What they did have was more important. They had parents who spent time with them when they were children, reading books, talking, playing games, going on picnics, just generally being a family and enjoying each other’s company. We still do. They’re not things they can put in the bank unless it’s the memory bank. Then they’d have lots of memories of fun family times together.
So, while Brogan may have things our children would never have dreamed of, to my mind Brogan doesn’t have the things that matter. Love isn’t about buying things; it’s about being there for the ones you love.
In a marriage relationship it’s always a grave mistake to make a child the focus of your attention. Marriage is about being with the one you love and spending time with them and then family, not making a child the center of attention, would you agree?
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