Yesterday I looked at some of the requirements of a good spouse. I’m sure you’ve thought of others.
We could add understanding and thoughtfulness. It is often those thoughtful little things our spouse does that can make all the difference to a day. It might be the unexpected phone call just to let you know they are thinking of you or little gift they thought you might like, something that just reminded them of you. It might be planning a special evening for just the two of you when they know you’ve had a hard week, or picking up a take away meal do you don’t have to cook.
I remember when I was at school and girls were talking about what they wanted in a husband, it was someone tall, dark and handsome – yes the usual cliche. I often wondered what about blond guys who never seemed to rate. It was someone who had a nice car and plenty of money. All superficial, aren’t they? Funny how those things become unimportant once you meet the right person and fall in love.
Of course for some people they don’t become unimportant because they never actually move past the superficial. They still have the idealized Mills and Boon picture in their heads. That can make it very difficult for anyone to measure up because the focus is on the wrong things. When times get tough, they are not the things that are going to see you through.
While we’re on the subject of the requirements of a good spouse you might cast your eyes over your spouse and see how they measure up, not to this unrealistic version but to the good qualities mentioned earlier.
Don’t just think about your spouse, stop and think whether you measure up. Do you have the requirements of a good spouse? Do you meet the positive requirements mentioned? If not what might you need to do to be more loving, understanding, communicative, and thoughtful?
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