One thing important in any marriage is being able to admit when you are wrong or have done something foolish.
Yesterday was one of those days when Mick and I were trying to sort out a few things about my website, in preparation for updating it and making some changes. Now, I’m by no means a technical expert, so without his input I would be completely lost. In the course of tying to edit and make changes whole pages disappeared.
In a situation like that the tendency could be for either of us to start laying blame and accusations. But I knew I was the one at fault and admitted it.
Once I had admitted my fault, we were then able to move forward and think through what might be the next step in trying to rectify the situation and set about trying to recover what had been lost. The only thing I could think of was to contact the support staff of our server, which I did. Then we both decided to leave the computer alone as both of us were battling with headaches and pain.
Thanks to great support staff, my pages are restored and Mick and I are free to work on them again when we get the chance. But at the moment we each have other things to do first.
When things go wrong in your house are you quick to lay the blame elsewhere and start with accusations against your spouse for something they either have done or should have done and haven’t?
Laying blame and ladling out accusations rarely does anything except put the other person automatically on the defensive and inflame the matter.
It is far better to take a step back from the situation. Try and look at it calmly and see if your words or actions had any bearing on the matter. If they did, admit your part in causing the problem to your spouse and then take time before you come back to work on the solution to the problem together.
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