When it comes to modern relationships and modern romance, the new normal to expect includes one couples with two jobs and far too much to do. What might have once been considered abnormal amounts of tension, stress and fatigue are now considered a part of the average couple’s married life.
The normality of too much stress, too little sleep and far too little time has become so expected that the majority of overworked couples are able to cope with their daily lives beautifully. Kids get to school on time. Their work gets done and done well enough to encourage promotion or new responsibilities. Meals are prepared and served on time. In fact, they accomplish most of their daily tasks with such precision that it may be hard to believe how stressed they are when there do not seem to be any delays I what they do and how they get it done.
The Down Side of the Normal Abnormal
When the abnormal becomes normal, there must be some cost and for overextended couples – the sacrifice made in the balance of their responsibilities and activities is often the relationship with their spouse. Remember, it takes honed skills to handle a busy life and those skills that make them so adept at handling their daily lives get in the way of their marriage.
They get the kids to school on time, but they don’t spend a lot of time laughing together. They get dinner to the table, but they forget to talk to each other about what is happening in their personal lives. In fact, most of what they talk about has to do with their children or their tasks. They get their work done and they get it done well, but they forget what it is like to be intimate with one another.
Romance and passion are sacrificed on the altar of getting things done. Married couples explain settling away from romance and passion with the explanation that the rigors of married life deem they outgrow that early stage of heated passions.
When a couple begins to settle for less, because life is so full and so busy – their relationship may survive. They may prove a very effective couple. Others may marvel at how well they work together on their common goals. But they lose what made their intimate relationship possible in the first place.
We’re going to talk about ways to maintain our intimacy today – we’re going to talk about why keeping romance and passion alive even as they confront the challenges and rigors of daily life.