I blush crimson as I write this blog! This is a topic I have never written about, except in my personal journals, but here goes.
Picture this scenario, women:
You have had a hard day. You made a mistake at work and your boss bawled you out. You were late picking your eight-year-old up from school and all the way home she let you know how awful and humiliating it was to be the last kid picked up. The dog ate the casserole you prepared for dinner. You pulled the laundry out of the dryer, only to find crayon marks all over it. You feel like an utter failure.
As you crawl into bed, your husband reaches over and hugs you. He kisses you on the forehead and tells you that you are a great woman and that he loves you. How do you feel? I personally would feel the weight of the world lifted off my shoulders, at least for a little while. Wouldn’t you?
When a wife makes love to her husband at the end of a hard day, he feels comforted and loved. We have the power to wash his troubles away, if only for a little while.
Now picture this:
You have been thinking about your husband all day. You can’t wait to get home to spend some time alone with him and let him know how much you love and appreciate him. You make his favorite meal and you fix your hair the way he likes it. When he comes through the door, he brushes past you, barely noticing you, let alone your hair. You tell him what’s for dinner and he replies, “I’m not that hungry.” You sit next to him on the couch as he watches the news. You rest your head on his shoulder and try to start a conversation. He shushes you and moves away. Ouch! It hurt’s doesn’t it?
This is how husbands feel when their wives reject them sexually. They feel hurt and unloved. To a man, when his wife says yes to sex, she is saying yes to him and this is how he knows that she loves him.
I have two articles that I want to share with you. The first is called, How Men Really Think about Sex. The way they think about it is totally different than the way most women think about it and you may be in for a few surprises.
The second article is written by a man. It’s called, Married…With Passion. It’s very insightful, as well as funny! If you want more passion in your marriage, this is a great place to start.
Well, I’m not blushing anymore. The more I think about it, the more I realize that this is such an important topic. It needs to be taken seriously and I am glad for the opportunity to bring it up.