Most of us can remember the very first date we had with our husband. I know I do. I will never forget my “Bangladesh” pants that I wore. At least that’s what my husband used to call them. I had these big, red-framed glasses and big hair (remember the perm?) Well, I guess for that time period I looked kind of cute.
We went to see Willy Porter play at a bar/restaurant. Afterwards we walked around the East side of Milwaukee and eventually had our first kiss.
From that point on, we couldn’t wait for the next date. Why? Because that is how we got to know one another. That is when we were able to enjoy one another. But guess what? We shouldn’t stop dating just because we are married.
We will be celebrating 20 years of marriage in September and throughout the past 19 years we have continued to date one another. It was tougher when our children were younger but we tried to as much as possible.
Now that our children are teens, it’s very easy to pick up and leave. So we take advantage of every opportunity we can to spend time together.
Dating your spouse is important. It gives you a chance to get away from the cares of the world and reconnect. It gives you an opportunity to laugh again.
I know that some people think when you date your spouse there should be a rule that you don’t discuss the children. Personally I have never understood that. Since your children really are your world, why not talk about them? It may be one of your rare chances to have some important discussions that would otherwise be interrupted at home.
However I don’t believe that children should be the only topic of your date. You could share what is on your mind, how your day was and what some of your struggles are. A date really isn’t the time to set your spouse straight on a few things. The idea of a date is to connect to one another.
Make it a habit to date your spouse. It’s healthy for your relationship and keeps the communication lines open.
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