During the last visitation between Rebecca and the biological mother she had a meeting with the case workers who told her they did not feel reunification was going to be an option as she has not complied with her reunification plan and neither had her husband. They asked if she would consider relinquishing her parental rights and she said she would not do that.
During the visitation the case worker suggested we try mediation as a last ditch effort to avoid going to court to force her losing parental rights. We had agreed to mediation but it was up to her. They spoke with her after we left with Rebecca and she said she needed a few days to think it over. They told her that if she refused or if we could not come up to an agreement in mediation that they would petition the court to terminate her rights.
A few days after the visit they case worker called saying that she had agreed to mediation and they wanted to know if we were still willing to participate. Of course we said yes maybe this would be an end to the visits and if all went well we could finally adopt Rebecca.
The case worker asked if we had thought about what we were willing and not willing to agree to. We had already been talking about this and we decided that visitation was going to be out. We thought this would be detrimental to Rebecca and our boys and the case workers agreed that it would not be something they would recommend. We told her that was all we had decided on fully but we needed some suggestions from them of what we should consider. They gave us some suggestions but they made it clear that it was very likely that the biological mother would not voluntarily relinquish her rights. She still did not like the fact she lost rights to her sons without her knowledge so no one thought she would give up on Rebecca willingly.