Do you ever feel like you have a lot of baggage? I know I do. I remember the night my ex husband and I split, thinking to myself, “You’re 21, you’re divorced, and you have a two year old. Who in their right mind is going to want to take that on?” Of course at the time I was feeling rather down on myself in light of recent events, as most of us are when we go through something like that. It tends to take a toll on our self-esteem. But there are still days even now when I have my “baggage moments.” Days when I think, “Wow! Have I really been carrying this around with me all this time?” Yes, there are times when baggage can be limiting. Not all men are ready or willing to take on all of the responsibility that comes with it, but believe it or not there are a fair amount that are, and chances are they have some baggage of their own.
You both come into a relationship with different experiences, different backgrounds. When you come together you’ve both learned different things that can add to the value of the relationship. Yes, I am divorced, but did I learn a lot from my first marriage? Of course! It was one of the absolute hardest things I have ever been through, but I gained so much from having been through it. Things that will actually help me in my next relationship.
I have a three year old son. Is that a lot to take on? Yes. No doubt, the responsibility is huge. But, I would never trade it in a million years. So while perhaps my baggage may be limiting at times, it has made me so much of who I am today, and I wouldn’t change it for anything in the world. I love my baggage, and someday somebody else will too.