Do you believe people can change? By people I mean your ex husband. After a divorce it’s hard to get along with this man you used to love. I know I felt like my ex husband had changed in ways that robbed me of my happiness and I was mad about it. In the beginning sometimes that anger just ate me up inside but I finally had to let go of it, for me, not for him.
There is so much bitterness after a divorce. Maybe your ex husband has done some things that make it impossible for you to have a civil conversation with him, maybe he has treated your children poorly or hurt them and you are not about to let that continue. I can see how the distance between father and children can grow. Dad makes some bad choices, says some mean things and Mom pulls the kids close to protect them. This is what mother’s do, we protect our babies. I know the worst thing for me was when my ex husband would say things to Hailey about me that were hurtful to her, I didn’t want to let him see her anymore, I didn’t think he had the right to hurt my child with his bitterness and anger.
Now having said that, do you think your ex husband can change? I know it’s hard to imagine but at one time this man was a loving husband, a caring father, isn’t it possible that he will come full circle and once again be the father your children need?
I think everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt, as hard as it is sometimes to give it to them. My ex husband has once again pulled away from Hailey, I think he doesn’t know what to do with this adult child of his so he chooses to do nothing. I try to tell her that her father has some things of his own to work through and that he still loves her, even though he doesn’t call.
I’ve tried so hard for a long time to ensure that Hailey has a relationship with her father, I hope that he will remember how important his child is before he damages their relationship beyond repair.