I know without a doubt that my divorce was the right thing. That being said, the pain that I felt as a result of that decision is by far the most intense and excruciating pain I have ever experienced in my life. It is a pain that never completely goes away. Although it has lessened with time, it is something I still deal with on a regular basis. There are times when the pain is dull and barely noticeable. There are other times when it is intensified and all-encompassing like it was in the beginning. It is at times like this that I find myself consumed with despair.
Nobody likes to feel pain. Instead of dealing with it, they may shove it aside and pretend that it isn’t there. I’ve felt myself do this on numerous occasions, I am as guilty as anyone. The pain is still there, but the thought of facing that pain is frightening because in facing that pain you have to feel it and experience it to new depths.
You can’t hide forever. Don’t be ashamed of your feelings. It is normal to experience grief and pain after going through a divorce. You have face that pain in order to heal. It’s ok to cry. It’s ok to be angry. It’s ok to be sad. Those things are all part of the process. You can’t run from your emotions forever. Sooner or later they are going to catch up to you. As difficult as it is to face those feelings, know that in facing them you will become stronger. Sometimes it takes going through something as horrific as a divorce to appreciate your happily-ever-after later.