Sometimes I have to remind myself of what really matters. That’s because I can easily get caught up in the inconsequential “stuff” of life.
It could be that I am so focused on my to-do list, my agenda or a schedule that I lose sight of what’s most important. When interruptions or distractions come, I get out of sorts.
This can mean not taking the time to really listen when my teen wants to talk. Or it could be that I dole out a sharp answer, just so I can move on to my next thing.
One of my famous (and least liked) lines is, “I’m busy.” Thankfully I have come a long way in not using those two words on a daily basis. But sometimes I slip.
Here is what I believe our children hear when we say, “I’m busy.” They hear, “I don’t have time for you now.” “You are bothering me.” “I have more important things to do.”
How would those words make you feel? You may be saying it to your children without realizing it.
When I get caught up in “doing,” I have to stop and think. Is my to-do list, my agenda or my schedule the most important part of my day? Or is it connecting with my children? What REALLY matters to me?
I can say it’s my family but if I don’t demonstrate it through purposeful actions, then my words are absolutely meaningless. And I may have good intentions but those don’t cut it.
Sadly, days or even weeks can go by when I have lost sight of what really matters. But then something reminds me of what’s important and I have to take a step back.
I have to evaluate where my focus has been. If it hasn’t been in the right place, then it’s time to make some adjustments.
What really matters? Building relationships. Not checking the next thing off on your to-do list or sticking to the schedule.
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