So my husband is in the hospital, and the kids and I have been going up every night to visit. Tonight we had a new nurse that came in and said how nice it was that one of our kids friends came to visit too. The kids looked at each other wondering who she meant. Now we knew exactly what she meant, and I am sure that the nurse never would have said that had she had known all of our kids are adopted. This got me thinking about how with all the publicity with stars going to adoption for children and quite often adopting outside of their race why people don’t think before they speak.
I told the kids I was going to ask the nurse a little question about Dad and how he was doing and kindly followed her out there and told her about our family dynamics and how she should maybe approach the subject if it should come up again. I explained when people come with those comments that often my middle sons feelings get hurt because he knows they are referring to him. I also explained that many families nowadays are blended either through marriage, divorce, adoption, or whatever and that she should be a little more cautious about how she approaches this situation in the future.
She was very apologetic and genuinely upset that she upset my son. Now that was not my intention to get her upset but I wanted to bring to her attention that I am sure that our family would not be the only family she would encounter that is of mixed ethnicities. I even gave her a way to correct the problem all she had to do was come in and ask the kids who their friend was (while pointing at me) if she did this and joke that I was too young to be there mom (yeah right) so she assumed I was their friend. First the kids would burst out laughing that I am too young they remind me all the time how old I am getting and if she happened to have popsicles in her hand for all us young folks the kids would just think she was a little silly.
I told her to wait about 15 minutes and then come back in and try it. I said 15 so the kids would be less likely to suspect it. When she came in and followed our plan all was good with the kids. We all got those yummy rainbow popsicles and the kids got a great laugh out of it. Hopefully the nurse learned a little lesson on not judging the book by the cover.
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