I wonder how many of you noticed yesterday that there was one obvious T missing? Did you? There was a reason for that. The reason is it deserves a blog all its own. The word is trust.
Do you trust your spouse implicitly? Do they trust you in that way? Do you trust each enough to be true to you when you are apart? How far would you trust your spouse with another woman or man as the case may be? Would you trust your man not to flirt but to behave if he goes out on a night with the boys or if she goes out for a night with the girls?
Do you trust your spouse enough to be yourself and not feel the need to pretend? Do you trust them with your history? Do you trust them not to use any secrets or personal details from your past as a weapon against you in an argument?
Do you trust them not only with your present but your future? What about finances? It’d be a sad state of affairs if you maintained separate bank accounts because you don’t quite trust each other with all the finances or to know how much you earn.
Can you answer yes to each of these questions? I hope you can, because it seems to me that without trust none of can build a meaningful lasting relationship. If you trust your spouse you won’t ever feel the need to go through their pockets, or wallet or purse or diary. You won’t feel you have to check up on where they’ve been on the computer and what sites they’ve been into.
Personally I can’t imagine how a marriage would survive long if the two people in the couple didn’t trust each other in all of these areas. Lack of trust can erode a marriage quicker than anything. Problems arise when on is always checking up on the other about where they’ve been, what time they left work, or who they were with.
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