Well I have had some concern that the bio dad for Steve may have been telling bio mom that we have contacted him. You must admit it was odd for all of a sudden her to start calling him to see if after all these years we would call him. I ignored the first time as a coincidence not a good one but a coincidence just the same. Because my cell number was called off to him where he is blind he had my cell. I really did not think too much about it until I got a call from him and it went to my voice mail where he referred to himself as Steve’s REAL dad.
Now he may be the biological father of Steve but a little donation does not make you a real father it makes you an unpaid donor. He had not been a father for Steve, he did a few CPS visits with him and he signed away his parental rights. The use of “Real Dad” really bothered me. My husband had been more of a real dad to the kids than any donor was. All he had to do was say his name he did not have to add that part I would have known who he was.
I did call him back later that day and did the polite chit chat, he again mentioned that bio mom had called and how he again did not tell her that we had spoken. OK I am young but I was not born yesterday. Why would the bio mom suddenly start calling him when they had not spoken in years before my first call to him? I did not address my concerns maybe I should have but I did not. I did mention that Steve does check my voice mail and that I thought the use of the term real dad was not ok. I told him that my husband has been a real dad for Steve; he has taught him how to grow into the wonderful young man that he was becoming. I asked him not to call again that I would call him when I was ready to update him again.