There is a Bible verse that says a nagging wife is like a constant dripping. Doesn’t the thought of listening to a faucet dripping rattle your insides?
So imagine how it feels to a spouse. After a while you start to sound like Charlie Brown’s teacher. Her voice was like someone speaking into a megaphone, all muffled.
Now here is the downside to nagging. If you don’t nag, sometimes things just won’t get done. I know…because I have been waiting for some things in this house to get done for six years. I’m not kidding.
It has actually become a sort of joke in our house. My husband is great at tackling big projects, like the kitchen he redid six years ago.
He put in new cabinets and flooring. It still looks fantastic.
But to this day I am waiting for the “small” stuff to be done…the touchup paint, putting in new trim. You get the idea.
There has never been a project in all our years together (which is over 20) that he has 100% completed it. Even our kids joke about it.
I used to nag about it. I used to nag, nag, and nag some more. I am happy to say that I have been a recovering nag for well over 10 years now.
Here’s why nagging never works:
It doesn’t come across as helping; it comes across as an attack
It stirs up resentment
It sounds critical
It automatically puts your spouse in defense mode
It makes you sound like a parent lecturing a child
And finally, it doesn’t get the job done. Well apparently not nagging doesn’t get the job done either.
What about you? Are you a nag? Or are you a recovering one?
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