We all know that change is inevitable. Transience is the nature of life, and everyone will face a life-altering change at some point in their existence. Marriage and the monotony of everyday life can sometimes lull you into a certain denial of change. You are secure in your finances, happy with your home life, and you and your spouse are secure in a comfortable routine, when out of nowhere your husband loses his job and you find yourselves in severe financial crisis. Your wife gets into a car accident and is seriously injured. Perhaps you come across evidence of your spouse’s infidelity and confront him or her about it. There are any number of ways in which your marriage can suddenly and
drastically change. When all the dust has settled, how do you adapt to your new life? Is it possible to “go back to normal?” Can you and your spouse learn to live in your new circumstances with minimal pain and stress?
The first step in learning to cope is to accept that the change has occurred. Acknowledge that your life is different, as is your relationship with your spouse. It may not be easy to accept, but it is essential to the healing process that you understand the difference between your life then and your life
now. You and your spouse are changed people, and your relationship has been forever altered. Your marriage can and will eventually bounce back, but for the time being, focus on coming to terms with what has happened. You must allow yourself time to fully realize and absorb the sudden change. Don’t be ashamed to spend time alone in reflection. Your spouse could probably use the solitude as well.
In the next stage, however, you must reconnect with your husband or wife as you adapt to the change. After accepting your new life, you then must then learn how to live in it. You have already accepted the fact that your life has changed. Now you can start reconstructing your life and your relationship with your spouse. Don’t try to move on too soon, but rather prepare yourself for the next stage in your life and relationship by establishing open communication with your spouse. Give each other the support that each of you needs, and keep an open mind to what your partner has to say. It may be a confusing and difficult time, but with honest communication, faith, and perseverance, you and your mate can make it through.
By the time you have adapted to your new life, you are probably ready to move on. If you are sure that you have thoroughly reconciled yourself to your strange new world and have communicated fairly and openly with your spouse, it is time to let go. Your life has changed – Make it better! You have been given a second chance at a new life and a renewed marriage. Let go of old worries and fears, and get ready to embark on the new journey you’ve been given.