It’s a different day in a different year and yet when I woke up this morning and tore off the page on the calendar for the last time and put up the new one, I had to be somewhat amused. Last night, my husband and I decided to forgo any of the parties and celebrations. We hung out together and had Arby’s roast beef sandwiches for dinner. It was nice to just hang out and enjoy ourselves having a quiet evening together.
Are We Bored?
This is a question many married couples may ask of themselves or of each other and I know that my husband and I have wondered that from time to time. But the thing of it is, it is not a case of being bored or boring individually, what it is – simply put, we have changed. When my husband and I first met, we were just 23 and 24 years old.
We lived life the way someone who is in their early 20s lives their lives. We savored every opportunity for new experiences. We enjoyed a wide variety of sports and activities and we attended parties and more. But that was a decade ago. We are not those same young people, eager to have the greatest amount of fun at every opportunity.
Are We Boring?
Perhaps, to other people we might seem as though we are, but the truth is – what entertains us these days is not always the same as what we found entertaining then. It’s not just that we’re parents, it’s that we’re older. We enjoy quieter pursuits. We enjoy a comfortable life and we enjoy our time together. It’s amazing how much you begin to value those quiet hours together when you have been limited in your options by the arrival of children in your midst.
So we are neither bored nor are we boring. We are comfortable with our lives and with our choices and we are comfortable with our life together. So do you ever wonder if you are boring or if your spouse is bored? Talk about it – you may be surprised at what they have to say to you.
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