It’s easy to take people for granted. We don’t mean to do it, but it’s far too easy to fall into the trap of simply expecting our spouses to do what pleases us. We stop saying please and thank you, we stop acknowledging how special our mate really is. We get so caught up in the daily routine that we don’t stop to appreciate our mates.
If you are in this rut, or even if you are the one feeling unappreciated, take some time to pay attention to your spouse. Showing him or her appreciation, attention, and affection, will likely make your spouse want to reciprocate.
The best way to keep from taking each other for granted is to take a moment to stop and think about why you married your spouse. What do you love about the man or woman you married? What is special about him or her? What do you appreciate the most? What would you do without the other person?
After you think about these things, tell your spouse how you feel. Let your spouse know how glad you are that you married him or her, and that you would do it all over again. Thank your spouse for something he or she has done recently that you may have overlooked at the time.
Also, stop and think about things your spouse may have said lately. Has he or she dropped hints about needing more alone time? Has he casually mentioned that he would really enjoy that special dessert you make? Has she hinted that something needs to be fixed? Pay attention to these kinds of comments, and surprise your spouse by doing what he or she wants. Really listen, and your spouse will tell you what he or she needs.
The very best advice for married couples to keep in mind is to treat each other the way we want to be treated, and to remember that everyone needs to feel appreciated.