Not all families are “sporty” families and not all children play sports. However, with the growth and development of youth sports for younger and younger kids, and the evolving competition levels for youth sports—it can seem that being involved in sports has taken center stage in terms of what “normal” family activities are. Just consider the term “soccer mom” and all the references to youth sports in popular culture. But, does a child HAVE to play sports to develop normally and should parents be concerned if a child is not interested or involved in sports during childhood?
Really, the most important question a parent can ask when a child doesn’t want to play sports is “Why?” If you can think through and identify why your child isn’t interested in playing a particular sport, or sports in general—you will gain a great deal of insight about whether or not it is normal, healthy and reasonable. A child may just not be interested in a specific sport and may be interested in dance, bike riding, or some other form of physical activity instead. If the child has been injured or experienced something traumatic associated with sports, this may be the main motivating factor behind his or her avoidance. If this is the case, it is better to address the fear and trauma so the child can work through it and reconnect with sports and physical activity. Does the child feel unskilled or not athletic? Is it a matter of social anxiety or shyness? Also, don’t overlook an actual physical disability or physical pain that may prevent the child from enjoying the activity.
Parents may also want to look at their own lifestyle and whether or not sports and physical activity are modeled and appreciated in the home (or if there is too much focus on sports—causing the child to rebel in order to demonstrate his or her individuality.) Many children develop to be healthy and active without playing sports, but parents need to look at the situation honestly and find a way to keep a child involved, stimulated, and active—regardless of whether she is playing sports or not.
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