Are you perfect? I’ll go out on a limb here and say that you’re not. I’m not perfect. You’re not perfect. Our spouses aren’t perfect. So why is it, if we’re all not perfect, we have such a problem with people when they are less than perfect? Why do we make such high demands of our spouses and even of ourselves.
When We Aren’t Perfect
When we are less than perfect, we can paralyze ourselves with feelings of guilt and inadequacy. We are our own worst enemies. We will beat ourselves up for things most other people wouldn’t perceive as a flaw or a failure, but we do. I’ve gotten angry with myself for forgetting to run to the store and I’ve gotten annoyed when I forgot to mail the check. My husband shrugs off these imperfections because they are human and as he says it – he’s far from perfect himself.
When Our Spouses Aren’t Perfect
We’re disappointed. We’re frustrated. We might even get angry with them. Yes – it’s annoying when they don’t do what they say they are going to do. Yes, it’s aggravating when he or she screws up and forgets to pay a bill or maybe they forget your birthday – it happens.
We have choices in life, we can get angry and we can stew over all of those mistakes. We can chew on them like a dog with a bone. We can feel the gristle get all caught up in our teeth and that bit of pain can grow until it becomes unbearable. When you do that, does it make it better? Does it improve the situation? Are you and your spouse growing in any way?
We’re Not Perfect
We’re not perfect. We all make mistakes. We all screw up. We’re all good at some things and not so good at others. We’ve all got talents and we all have flaws. We all deserve to be loved for who we are and not just what we do or whose standards we live up to. So start today, forgive your spouse for not being perfect. Forgive yourself for not being perfect. Love each other for who you are and enjoy each other for who you are.
Oh and if you were wondering, perfect looks GREAT on paper. But can you imagine if your spouse were absolutely perfect – it would really be one of two ways, utterly boring or utterly intimidating. I’m not sure which one is worse. What about you?
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