How did you go with three words to describe you and your spouse? Did you find it hard to choose just three? I did. For my husband I could have also added, loving, creative, clever (especially at fixing things and doing things with his hands which I am not) friendly, (people always enjoy talking to him and he can talk to anyone), down to earth and realistic. (I’m emotional and I’m a worrier. He’s neither.)
Since we are so different how does that work out in our marriage? Fine. As Courtney said we compliment or balance each other. He keeps me grounded when I’m likely to go over the top about something. But the key is that though we are different in character traits, our core values are the same.
It must be so hard for couples where they have different values and are both striving for something different. I have seen some couples struggle with that.
Our core values are the same. We both have a faith in God and view our relationship with Him as of prime importance. We can pray, read the Bible and go to church together.
We are both committed to each other and to our family. Both of us consider family so important, we were happy to forgo things financially so I could stay home with our children when they were young.
Similarly we are supportive of each other in whatever we do. When his job moved to another city far away from Sydney, there was never any question I would support him and move as well. That wasn’t the case for all couples affected by that move. A number of marriages fell apart as wives refused to move with their husbands or they tried to carry on a long distance marriage only seeing each other on weekends.
When he wanted to retire early, I supported his decision, even though I meant less money coming in. His health was of prime importance. I love him being retired and seeing more of him.
Whatever I’m doing he always supports me, whether that’s in my writing and planning a book launch as I am currently. Or as in recently when I was involved in a choir and he came along to the performance at our newly opened entertainment center even if all the music we sang and others on the program sang wasn’t to his taste.
As you look at your marriage or the one you are planning to marry, can you say the same that your core values are the same? If they are not, think seriously before you commit.
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