When we are going through struggles and different trials, we may be on knees daily asking the Lord for help. We may be asking for strength to get through this trial or for our burdens to be lifted. We may expect help to come in unexpected ways. We may expect that the bishop will magically appear on our doorstep to help in unexpected ways. While this does happen on occasion, it is important to realize that we need to ask for help as well.
The church has set up a system, which can help to meet your needs. It is a beautiful system that gives many members a chance to help. You simply need to call your visiting teachers or your home teachers and ask them for the help that you need. If the problem is serious enough, they will report it to the Relief Society president or the Elders’ Quorum president who will then report it to the bishop. If you feel that the matter should be handled discreetly or simply need counsel from the bishop you should go directly to him.
Often members are not aware of the problems you are facing. Many would love to help, but simply do not know how. If you can simply express what you need, (babysitting, meals brought in, rides to appointments, or help cleaning your house) they are happy to help. Sometimes people may be trying to help, but doing so in the wrong way. It helps if you know and express the areas that you need the most help.
I have seen wards come together and serve as members have struggled with illness, death, and other tragedies. Ward members are willing to serve, but just need the direction or the task set out for them. If you are reluctant to ask for help, but really feel that you need it, you should ask. There is no reason to be ashamed because you need help. We all need help at some point in our lives. In the church, we will have the opportunity to serve and to be served.
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