So Christmas is over and the presents all unwrapped, family often gone back to the respective homes or maybe more arriving. How do you feel after the hype of the last few days?
Do you feel still on a high after the excitement of Christmas? Do you feel thankful things are back more normal and back to your usual routine? Do you feel depressed because family has left or you’ve had to leave them behind or simply because there’s nothing to look forward to any more? Do you regret that it’s all over for another year? Or are you relived?
Someone I know said ‘I’m glad it’s all over.’ I thought what a sad attitude that was.
A lot of our attitudes toward Christmas and special occasions, where family get together, depend on how well we get along with family and also with in-laws or extended family. It also can depend on how much help you get from your spouse.
When the family gathers is your celebration a joint effort with your spouse helping out with chores that need doing, helping with cooking or washing up or whatever it might be? This is where communication is important. Let your spouse know those things that need doing.
Don’t expect your spouse to just see and know what needs doing. Your spouse is not a mind reader. Sometimes people might think they are being helpful when in reality they are getting in the way or not doing those things you’d like done.
So don’t expect your spouse to simply know and don’t get frustrated if they don’t see the things that need doing, simply ask them nicely, ‘Could you please wipe the table down or cut the ham or take the papers out or whatever it is. The same thing applies to family members. Let them help out in the things that need doing. That way everyone will be more relaxed and the chores will not fall to one or two people.
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