For two people who married and were far from being virgins, the sexual history of both can at times play a part in causing arguments and insecurities. Though past history is important, in terms of sexual health and even the amount of emotional “baggage” carried from past relationships, the details of one’s sexual history need not be discussed. Still, some people are not comfortable without the details. It’s as if they want to compare themselves with the competition of the past. This can be destructive to one’s psyche. Allowing ghosts of the past to influence your moods and attitudes in … Continue reading →

No one likes to get into fights, especially with the one they love, but sometimes in marriages fights occur and one or both people get hurt at what is said. Avoiding conflict may seem like a good idea, but if avoidance means living with unresolved issues, such a stance is not good. The key to a good marriage is openly discussing the pros and cons of issues that surface. Fighting is often a sign of not being able to communicate your thoughts clearly and objectively, and one or both people get frustrated because the other person isn’t listening or refusing … Continue reading →

Do men and women communicate differently? Is it possible that the way men and women communicate can actually cause difficulty in understanding one another? The answer to both questions is yes. Many books have been written on the subject of gender differences in marriage, including one of the more popular ones “Men are From Mars. Women are From Venus.” These books usually deal with the black and white differences among the genders, but rarely deal with the nuances that exist that have little to do with gender differences. In this post, we’ll deal with three differences among genders and how … Continue reading →

Before you got married, you looked forward to getting prepared for the wedding. There was the wedding shower registration, planning the wedding, sending out invitations and etc., as well as planning the honeymoon. Now, it’s a few weeks or months after the honeymoon and you are experiencing the blues. You’re supposed to be happy, you tell yourself, but instead you’re down a lot and often find yourself fighting the tears. What’s wrong? No doubt you’re experiencing the post honeymoon blues. The post honeymoon blues are more common than you think. Many report experiencing a let down feeling after a big … Continue reading →

When you read the headline of this post, does it scare you because of the potential bad things you might learn about your spouse? When you think of the question posed, it might make you a little nervous, but hopefully you will consider the possibility of discovering new and positive things about your spouse. Are you ever amazed when you learn something new about someone else? Is it possible that maybe there’s more to learn about your own spouse? Some people feel that they know each other very well in a marriage situation, but what they fail to realize is … Continue reading →