If you remember nothing else when becoming a parent for the first time, try to remember the following – every baby is unique. Every baby develops at his or her own personal rate. The growth and development charts are all based on the average baby, but the actual average baby doesn’t exist. These are statistics that are gathered added up and then divided by the number of babies who were sampled.
So if your child development chart tells you that your baby should be walking at 9 months and your baby isn’t remotely interested in this –there’s nothing wrong with your baby. Some babies walk at 9 months, some walk at 11 months and others wait until they are 13 or 14 months of age. Enjoy your baby’s ages and stages as they develop.
Don’t Compare
Don’t compare your baby to anyone else’s whether they are in your family or not. Don’t wonder why the neighbor baby is grabbing things and holding onto them at 3 months and your baby isn’t. Don’t worry if your nephew has a vocabulary of five to ten words by the time they are a year and your baby only mumbles a couple. Don’t compare.
Did I say don’t compare?
Comparison is a Trap
When you get hung up on comparing your baby to every other baby around, you fall into a trap of pushing your child too hard and too fast. You will be setting yourself up for disappointment and you will miss out on so much.
My daughter walked late according to the statistics. She talked late and she didn’t seem to perform as expected according to all the books. If I’d allowed myself to get hung up on that timetable and punching a time clock on her achievements, I would never have gotten to enjoy the wonder she felt and the way she explored her world. I would never have gotten to really enjoy her butt scooting that she loved to do all over the place prior to walking.
So repeat to yourself over and over again and print it out and put it up where you can see it: Babies Develop Differently and that’s a-okay!
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