In a previous discussion, we talked about the facts and myths associated with pacifier use. If your baby does use a pacifier, and you feel it’s time for them to kick the habit, here is an idea that may be useful.
Babies have a natural urge to suck. Often this urge progresses beyond bottle or breastfeeding. You may be surprised to know that this urge usually does not go away until approximately six to eight years of age. Children stop using pacifiers long before this time of course, but it’s interesting to note that the automatic desire to suck may still be present. This often leads to thumb sucking after the pacifiers have been taken away.
So what are the steps to get your child to stop using pacifiers?
First, don’t scold them, shame them, or become angry with them – this will likely lead to the opposite affect you are seeking. Being scolded only leads to a further desire to have the forbidden. It also damages their self-esteem, which you don’t want to do.
To stop pacifier use cold, you could simply make the pacifiers disappear. Be prepared though for a few long nights, especially if your baby or child relies on the pacifier to fall asleep. If your child is a bit older, you could also have an official ceremony, where together you throw the pacifiers away as a sign that they’ve become a big boy or girl. I’ve heard of this method working well with some, but being a no-go for others.
Another idea is to initiate a gradual reduction before taking away the pacifiers altogether. If your child sucks on his or her pacifier during the day and night, for example, try taking them away during the day and only giving them to your child at night.
Whatever you choose, you’re likely in for a mini-battle in the beginning. Taking away pacifiers often signals the end of an “era” for a child. They may fear that they are not your “baby” anymore and may react with tantrums or regressed behavior for a short time. Keep your ground though, hard as it may be. If you’ve made the decision to take the pacifier away, you’ve got to stick with it. Going back and forth will only make it harder for both of you. With a little persistence and extra affection, your child will be able to function happily without pacifiers.
If you’ve already faced this battle, I’d love to hear what worked for you.