On this Mother’s Day I wanted to write about my becoming a Mom. I did not become a Mom the good old fashioned way; I became a Mom by adopting children. We opened our hearts and home to three children. They are all siblings and we had the two boys join us in July of 2002 and then five months later their baby sister joined our family just in time for our first Christmas as a family.
Our children all know that they have two Moms’ and two Dads’; they have always known that they are adopted. We don’t hide the fact that they are adopted. We don’t make the word adoption a taboo subject in our home, there is nothing taboo about it. We wanted children and they wanted a family it is a perfect match. The kids all know they have a tummy Mommy and a tummy Daddy and then they have us their Heart Mommy and Heart Daddy.
You all have heard anyone can be a parent but it takes a special person to be a Mom or Dad. Biologically speaking it is very easy to become a tummy Mommy or Daddy; heck most people do not know when they first conceived their child. Some people do not choose to be a parent, for children who are adopted their Mom and Dad chooses to be their parents, to be their forever family.
We used to tell a bedtime story to our kids that was set at a toy store or mall. That when we wanted to have a family, we looked high and low, through all the children that needed a family, and could not find the perfect children for us, then we looked in our hearts. When we looked in our hearts it us showed us them and we CHOSE them!
How many kids can say that they were picked out to be in their family? We also tell them how we did not even see pictures of them before we decided they were ours, we just trusted that our hearts would find us the perfect kids and it did. We found the perfect family; our kids are now almost 12, 10 and 8. This July will be our 9th annual Family Day, it is not the day we went to court, and it is the day that we met our boys for the very first time!
Some say you cannot love an adopted child the same as you can love a biological child; I would have to both agree and disagree. I dont think I could not love them more if they were our biological children because we choose to be their parents. I would give my life for my kids and their unconditional love is the most amazing gift any one could ask for.
We have been told that what we did for the kids, by adopting them is a blessing, the true blessing is what the kids did for us by allowing us to be their Mom and Dad. The first time my son’s called me Mom was the best day of my life.