Tyler’s birthday is November 26. One of the first things he asked when he found out that we would be returning to New Orleans was, “Will we be in the house for my birthday?” At the time, I assured him that we would because I was being optimistic and hoped that things would move faster once we were back in town. Of course, this has not been the case but I still feel fortunate that I am closer to moving back into my house, while others are still trying to get started.
One of the great things about young kids is they are pretty flexible on some issues. As I sat down to explain to Tyler that we wouldn’t be home on his birthday, I was afraid he would be disappointed. Especially when he found out that he wasn’t having a birthday party either. He had really wanted to have one and a few months ago it was my intention to throw a nice party and invite his classmates. But honestly I am so tired from trying to get things settled that I don’t have the energy to plan anything. I figure we’ll have a really nice Christmas and that will make up for not having a birthday party.
Even if you can’t throw a big bash for your child’s birthday you can still make it special. You can keep it simple and make it special. The first thing I decided to do is ask Tyler what he wants to do or would like to receive. His birthday is on a Monday so there’s not much we can do on the actual day to celebrate. This weekend’s going to center around “house stuff” so celebrating early is pretty much out of the question. What he really wants is a Wii or a PS2. So instead of a party that’s what I plan to give him. Then we’ll have a nice dinner with a dessert at the restaurant in the hotel where we are staying. Simple but special because we both get what we want.
If your child has a birthday coming soon, don’t feel obligated to make a big deal out of it. Sometimes less is best.
See also:
Birthday Parties- Are Some Parents Going too Far?