As the new single parents blogger, I have been spending some time reading through other posts in this blog. In doing so, I have been able to get a sense of what has already been covered and find inspiration for my own future posts.
One topic that I have seen a lot of is dating as a single parent, and while I understand why this would be an important issue, I am amazed that I have not been able to locate even one post about the joys of being single. So I decided that would be my inspiration for this post.
I love being single. I love being able to focus my attention almost entirely on my children. I love not having a mate there to argue with. I love having the freedom to go out with my friends when I want (well, at least when the kids are with their father). I love having this time to take a look at my life and fix what I think needs fixing-a bit of soul-searching. Being single has actually turned out to be a blessing for me.
I am not saying that I have always been happy about being a single mom, because I haven’t. There was a time when I grieved the end of my marriage and felt utterly alone. And there are times now when I still feel lonely, but that feeling usually passes fairly quickly. I usually cope with my loneliness by engaging in an activity with my kids, visiting a friend, or signing onto my Facebook account and chatting with friends there.
Someday I do hope to meet someone and fall in love again, but I am not rushing it. I have not made myself completely unavailable for dating (although there is nothing wrong with doing so). I go out with my friends and meet new people, and if I happen to meet someone who sparks my interest, I may consider dating him. But until that day happens, I am quite content staying single.
“Sometimes you have to stand alone to prove that you can still stand.” – Anonymous