It’s hard to believe that we are raising our kids in a era where mom’s can be meaner than the kids! You know the mom I’m talking about, the one who is always bragging about how much better her kid is at everything than anyone else. She’s super competitive and has to make sure that she and her child are always the center of attention. She can also be really pushy, rushing in to organize everything and then excluding your child when you don’t appreciate how much she does for everyone.
Those bully moms will gossip about you on the sidelines at your kids soccer games, make sure you get the absolute worse volunteer duty and ostracize you if you don’t toe the line. Is it any wonder so many kids are bullies, they are learning it at home.
It is especially hard to deal with bully moms when you are a single mother. You often cannot participate when they would like you to and your children may not be dressed in the latest fashions or active in every after school activity. These moms have an image to uphold and if you or your child does not live up to that image, well, there just may not be any room on the playground for you.
I don’t like confrontation, I will do anything to avoid it, especially since I don’t have a husband or significant other who “has my back.” I prefer to walk away than raise a fuss but this is one area where we can’t walk away.
If you or your child are the victim of a mean mom, call them out on it. Bully‘s rule mostly by intimidation so just like we tell our children, don’t let them intimidate you. You don’t have to be mean or aggressive, just let the other mom know that you see what is happening and it’s not ok. Then ask her how the two of you can solve this problem.
This sets a good example for our kids, you have a right to stand up for yourself when someone is treating you poorly. Remember, these moms are teaching their children how to behave, if you allow the mom to bully you, soon her child will be bullying your child.