Bullying has been around since the beginning of time. We have all been touched by it at some point in our lives, whether as children or as adults. I recently read an article that stated that bullying is on the rise again. What a sad sentiment to think about. Every time I see the kids out at recess I am reminded of just how true these statements are. Kids are getting meaner and meaner. For many children school is no longer a safe haven. How do we help our children navigate through these difficult school years, especially as a single parent?
First, it is important to be there for your child. Many children feel embarrassed that they are being picked on at school, make sure that they feel comfortable enough that they can come to you about it. You can’t help very well if you don’t know what is going on. Sometimes children just need someone they can talk to about it, be that person for them.
Remember that bullies usually pick on people because of their own insecurities. They feel that if they point the finger at someone else then it takes the spotlight off of them. They have a deep desire for control and feel that this is the only way to get it, even though it is at the expense of others. Bullies often have issues of their own going on at home. They themselves may be mistreated at home and in turn are dealing with things in the only way they know how.
If your child is being bullied at school be sure to talk to someone about it, don’t just let it go. Bullying is serious, it doesn’t just go away. Teachers are trained to deal with these situations, make sure they are aware of what is going on so that they can protect your child when you aren’t there. Never teach your child to fight back. This only exacerbates the problem. Sometimes the most effective thing to do is just ignore them and walk away. If the bullying continues make sure your child knows who to go to for help. Children can be cruel, but your child doesn’t have to be a part of it if they know what to do and who to turn to.