The relationships that we have with others greatly affect our lives. They have influence over our emotions, our moods, and our outlook on life. In most cases we would consider being in a bad relationship to have a negative impact on our life and personal satisfaction. However one research study has found that being in a bad relationship and ending it can actually be very beneficial to our lives.
One factor that was boosted by ending a bad relationship was self-discovery. It is found that in close, tight bonds with a mate, partners often become dependent on one another. They tend to lose separate identities and become one. This can be very rewarding if the relationship is positive. However if the relationship is bad, losing yourself in it can be very negative to your own personal self and identity.
It was found that when a bad relationship is ended, mates begin to rediscover their own identity. They recreate goals and self desires. They turn to old friendships and family relations that were put on hold during the relationship. Bad relationships can hold back your personal growth. Therefore being in one and then ending it can have a very positive impact on a person.
The study also found that bad relationships create a lot of unneeded and unwanted stress. They often keep the mates in a constant emotional uproar. Therefore tension and stress can be removed when a bad relationship is ended. More positive emotions are created and partners will have a healthier outlook and emotional well being than before.
While most of us know that physical and verbal abusive relationships need to be ended, not all bad relationships are this easily characterized. Some relationships are bad due to no fault of one or the other partners. The two people just simply do not have the bond that is needed for a healthy relationship.
Although it can be very difficult to end a relationship with someone that you have grown very close to, consider the impact that the negativity is bringing to your life. Think about the positive effects that your life will see after the relationship is over.
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