Do you crave romance? It seems like one of the first things to go once we settle into a marriage routine. So, what are you going to do about it? Men and women alike crave romance from time to time, but too often, women expect men to initiate it. Sometimes we feel like it just isn’t the same if we have to hint around, set the stage, or come right out and ask for romance.
It’s time we got over it. Asking for what we want and need does not diminish the true feelings behind his gestures (or hers for that matter). By the way, there are subtle ways to encourage romance that will make it more spontaneous so it doesn’t feel forced.
Fall is the perfect time of year for cozy cuddling and hand in hand walks. It’s a great time to sit outside in the evening looking at the stars and sharing dreams, when it’s almost too chilly to be comfortable, because it leads to cuddling to keep warm! Light a fire in the fireplace, get an outdoor fire pit, or just light some candles.
Autumn is a beautiful time of year, filled with warm, stimulating color and the anticipation of holidays coming soon. The chill in the air leads to more baking and cooking, more snuggling under a soft blanket, more hand holding and sharing of jackets or sweaters, more playfulness, and other tender gestures that make us feel loved.
So, drag your husband outside (just kidding). Seriously, encourage him to take a walk with you. Work in the yard together, just the two of you. It’s a good workout and it might just lead to a back rub later. Go for a little hike in the forest preserves and do some exploring. Sit outside after the kids go to bed and absorb the stillness. Let autumn inspire you.