Let me ask you a question…can your husband trust you? I’m not talking about in the sense that you won’t cheat on him. Of course, I hope he can trust you in that way. But I’m talking about the “little” stuff, or the stuff that we categorize as being little.
Can your husband trust you with the finances? Do you spend without making sure you have the money? Do you spend even when you know you don’t have the money? Do you hide purchases? These are all ways that might demonstrate you can’t be trusted with the finances.
Can your husband trust you with secrets? Do you tell your friends about the things he shares with you in confidence? Do you make a mockery of his struggles? Do you run off and complain about every little thing about him that drives you nuts? Do you make him sound like the bad guy every time you have a disagreement?
Can your husband trust you with his relationship with the children? Do you badmouth him in front of the kids? Do you undermine his authority? Do you take back punishments he has doled out?
These are things that we might not necessarily think of when it comes to trust. But they are part of having a trusting relationship.
Our husbands need to trust that we always have their best interests in mind, that we value our relationship and that we will do whatever we can to protect it. Not only do we need to protect our marriages from outside influences but there are a dozen other ways we need to.
I have to admit that there are some things I need to work on, or things that I sometimes slip in. I want my husband to trust me to be a loyal wife and so before I say something about him or make a decision that affects us, I am going to ask myself…am I being trustworthy in this marriage?
So ask yourself…can your husband trust you?
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